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27 Nov Changing from Lawyer to Blogger..

Why the change. I can’t tell you any more than the usual working mother.  It is the standard complaint of the need for more of a work life balance.  As a relatively young 30 something, I expected life to change when I had a baby. I had no idea by how much, nobody does, but I and many of my friends, basked in the knowledge that if we worked hard, put our babies in nursery when they were little and then went back to work, it would get easier when they went to school.  For me this has just not been the case.

Everyone is different, but I don’t think I really ‘got’ the baby stage. I didn’t like the sleepless nights, I really disliked the feeding (mine didn’t like milk) and it took hours and hours and hours.  I just didn’t really enjoy that stage.  I didn’t really mind going back to work.  I was lucky to go back 3 days and I thought it would be ok.  However now Izzy and Eve are 4 and Lily is 5 they need more from me. They are little people with thoughts, opinions and feelings. They make me laugh, shout, cry and smile in the same 10 minutes. I think they need their Mummy more. I didn’t see this coming and I didn’t expect it.   I thought once they went to school, work would return to more of a normality than it was, but I didn’t factor in that whilst nursery is open 7-6 or more if needs be, school finishes mid-way through the afternoon, and when they have finished being educated they are exhausted. After school club every day is too much for my little ones at the moment and they want to come home and read their books at home in the comfort of their own home, or slob out with some tele, particularly on these dark winter nights.

We’ve been lucky that we’ve had an amazing Nanny to help us through the last 5 years, initially because 3 at home with her was cheaper than 3 in nursery, but after that it was because we didn’t think we would cope without her in our life. If I’m honest I’m still not sure we will. But with a husband with a new job further away from home, and the pressures of work mounting something has had to give. I want to be able to drop them off at school and not panic because I’m half an hour later into the office than I wanted to be. I want to be able to pick them up without making a phone call on the way home to a client simply because I didn’t get the chance to do it before I left, and I want to be able to have a day off without worrying about what I haven’t done. As I type this, my work emails are open, its my day off, but I’ve sent 10 emails, and answered two phone calls, and this is what it’s like when I’m working my notice.  This pressure isn’t actually my employers doing, they are actually very good, but its the pressure I feel to do the best job.  

So  I’ve decided to make a change.  To focus on my blog Mini Travellers which I love and to start this one; to document the change.  To be fair, the article heading probably isn’t quite right. I probably won’t end up being solely a blogger, but if I do that would be fabulous!  I sit on two companies boards (and chair one), I do some legal consultancy and will still provide some legal advice but I will do this within school hours and from the comfort of my own home.

I will also try and learn yoga, and I will make more time for running (10k today for the first time in ages).  So it is onwards and upwards. From Lawyer to Blogger….

 

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  • Sarah Christie
    Posted at 14:37h, 27 November Reply

    I totally get this Karen, why? because as you know I am going through exactly the same and being the working Mum is not all its cracked up to be, I want to be here for the boys, remember moments and just chill with them instead of living life in a constant state of frenzy, I just wish I had realised sooner x

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:46h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks so much Sarah

  • Hayley @hayleyfromhome
    Posted at 14:44h, 27 November Reply

    From reading this it sounds like you have made the right choice for you Karen…and for you family. It will be lovely to pick your girls up and drop them off and it sounds like you will still be busy enough to keep occupied but flexibly enough to suit you. Good luck with the Yoga! My class times have changed so I haven’t been able to go for a while but I absolutely love it, I would recommend it to anyone but definitely busy Mums!

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:46h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks Hayley that’s fab. Yoga is hard!!

  • mummyofboygirltwins
    Posted at 16:00h, 27 November Reply

    Love this Karen – the honesty makes this so warm. I think that a lot of women will be able to relate to this. You have been my hero – balancing it all. But even more of an inspiration to be able to take on a new venture! Good luck; you are so clever, driven and friendly that you will succeed in anything you do. Behind you all the way xxx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:45h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks Jess that’s really kind

  • Harry's Honest Mummy
    Posted at 08:43h, 28 November Reply

    I think every Mummy can relate to this post. I wish you all the very best in your new adventure and hope you get that work/life balance just right. Good luck #PoCoLo

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:45h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks so much for the lovely comment

  • Verily Victoria Vocalises
    Posted at 08:45h, 28 November Reply

    This is a great post Karen and I completely understand your decision. I am so grateful that I have been around to take Grace to and from school and simply be there for her. Balancing is a very tricky act and I have no doubt that you will be great. I look forward to following your journey. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:45h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks Vicky balancing is so so hard isn’t it!

  • Lex
    Posted at 10:24h, 28 November Reply

    I love how honest, yet warm this post is. You’ve literally told the truth about your feelings end situation and I really think you will reach out and relate to so many. You’re doing a fantastic job. Keep writing, keep parenting, keep being you #PoCoLo

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:44h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks that’s really kind of you to say

  • Cathy (MummyTravels)
    Posted at 18:52h, 28 November Reply

    How exciting! And as everyone has said, I doubt there’s a mother reading who hasn’t wished for a bit less juggling, a bit more work-life balance and in my own case, not to be checking emails while my daughter plays. Good luck with everything and I’ve no doubt there’s a very exciting new chapter ahead.

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:44h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks Cathy. It’s very tricky to make it work isn’t it.

  • Kat | Beau Twins
    Posted at 19:35h, 28 November Reply

    I am thrilled to read this Karen. I think you have made the best decision and it sounds like you have dotted the i’s and crossed the t’s. Wishing you so much success with all your ventures! 😉 xxx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:43h, 28 November Reply

      Ah thanks Kat such a lovely thing to say

  • Katie Haydock
    Posted at 19:42h, 28 November Reply

    And it will be so, SO lovely to read more from you ☺

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:43h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks so much Katie x

  • Samantha Rickelton
    Posted at 19:53h, 28 November Reply

    ooooh good luck with all your new mini ventures, I feel in my heart this is a fabulous step for you x

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 19:54h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks so much Sam! It’s really exciting x

  • Kirsty Bingley
    Posted at 20:14h, 28 November Reply

    I think you’ll look back on your life in years to come ,with the knowledge this was one of the best decisions you ever made. You will succeed in anything you do because you’re you. Good luck xxxx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 20:17h, 28 November Reply

      Kirsty thanks so much. Brought a tear to me eye that. X

  • Mummy M's memories
    Posted at 21:05h, 28 November Reply

    Good luck on your new venture. You will do great. X

  • Mrs H
    Posted at 21:26h, 28 November Reply

    I loved reading this post. I have always been in awe of you. You seem to always accomplish so much and do it brilliantly. And I know that you are going to be amazing at this new venture. I am so excited for you lovely and can’t wait to read more. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 21:28h, 28 November Reply

      Thanks Mrs H, really appreciate the kind words

  • Jane Cotton
    Posted at 22:20h, 28 November Reply

    Bravo Karen! Echo everything you say about the children needing you even more as they go through primary school and the impossibility of being able to do our job in the way we feel have to do it and feel present in our kids’ lives. You were my inspiration to change my work life balance drastically and I already feel a weight has been lifted even though it doesn’t start until December. Until now, I’ve felt like I was waiting for life to start and that if I could just ‘get through this week’ I’d be able to devote more time to home reading and actually having conversations with the kiddies and all the fun stuff I would be doing if only the blackberry would stop flashing. Life is too short, childhoods even shorter. Sad that it turns out to be nigh on impossible to have it all. From lawyer to less lawyer (and much more mummy)! Xxx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 22:26h, 28 November Reply

      thanks Jane, you’re right about waiting for life to start, for weeks to finish so weekends can start! I heard a really good quote the other day. You can have it all, you just need to change the definition of what all looks like.

  • Julia @ rainbeaubelle
    Posted at 07:11h, 29 November Reply

    I totally get that it gets harder as they get older and they need that but more. I think you’ve made a brace decision but definitely the right one for your family and your future. More time for us to have coffee on my days off maybe?! X

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 07:20h, 29 November Reply

      Yep definitely more time for coffee!!

  • Ann Currie
    Posted at 08:09h, 29 November Reply

    I am certain that this is a decision that you will have no regrets about. I took a year off when my twins were in reception for precisely the reasons you mention in your post. Even though they don’t really remember me being there (gutted!) I have the satisfaction of knowing that I was there for them. You will too. Plus you have all your exciting projects on the go! All the very best x

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 08:14h, 29 November Reply

      Thanks so much Ann love the name of your site! Off to check it out properly now. Xx

  • Christine
    Posted at 12:58h, 29 November Reply

    I waited until my eldest started school before I went part-time at work; you’re correct in that it’s so easy with nursery open long hours – and no school holiday cover to worry about. I was subsequently made redundant (I have a sneaky feeling my part-time hours were connected to this decision) but now have a great job in a local school. My eldest is now at secondary – I keep thinking I should go back to work full time in my old profession but I’m not convinced I want to! Good luck with your decision, I’m sure it will work out well! #pocolo

  • Caro | The Twinkle Diaries
    Posted at 17:02h, 29 November Reply

    Bloody marvellous! SO proud of you pet — so happy that you’re chasing your dreams and have left the corporate world behind. It may be that you return to it — in time — but for now, it’s an exciting thing that you’re putting all your eggs into the ‘virtual’ basket, so to speak. Just look what you’ve achieved in such a short space of time! The world is your oyster! :) xx

    • Mini Ventures
      Posted at 17:03h, 29 November Reply

      It’s an exciting time ahead that’s for sure xx

  • Barjerow
    Posted at 20:09h, 29 November Reply

    Good Luck with your new venture. I’m sure it will work out really well for you, especially as you always give your all to everything you do. XX

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  • Amber
    Posted at 10:23h, 02 December Reply

    What an exciting change for you, and it sounds as though you’re making the move at the right moment. Best of luck to you!

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    Posted at 19:53h, 02 December Reply

    I am so excited for you, Karen. Echoing what others have said, it sounds like you’ve made a brilliant decision for your family and in seeking that elusive work/life balance.

    I can’t wait to read more about your journey.

    Lots of luck and luck to you. xxx

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    Posted at 14:44h, 16 December Reply

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. I had a similar dilemma when expecting my first. I was just starting my career as an environmental scientist when I found out I was pregnant. I planned to go back to work when baby was 6 months but he was born 10 weeks early. His now three and I have tried several times to go back but not we have an 8 month old and I am still home. #sharewithme

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    Posted at 17:27h, 19 December Reply

    I have finally found your new blog Karen and I LOVE it. I am sure you spent many a sleepless night wondering what to do, but I am sure 2016 will bring great opportunities for you. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to juggle 3 young girls and a career. Wishing you lots of luck and hopefully we can squeeze in a coffee one day xx

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      Posted at 18:43h, 19 December Reply

      Thanks so much Tracey. Would love to do that x

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