08 Jan Same but Different?
Yesterday I took Izzy and Eve my identical twin girls to Chester Zoo (you can see my post about the day out over on Mini Travellers) but I wanted to take the time to record some things I noticed about them yesterday. These things do happen at other times, but yesterday was the first time in a very long time that I got chance to spend a day just with them as Lily was back at school and I’ve made the decision to spend more time working from home.
- They held hands over breakfast.
- Izzy apologised to me for the fact that Eve hadn’t got dressed and come down for breakfast yet.
- Eve arrived downstairs in a top and leggings, having completely disregarded the clothes (dress and tights) that I put out for her. I don’t like girls clothes she said, Izzy does.
- Izzy asked me if she could have her own bedroom and Eve cried about it.
- Izzy was very independent walking round the Zoo and Eve held my hand or asked Izzy to hold hers.
- We took loads more time watching everything than we would have done if Lily had been with us, they seemed to know when each of them wanted to move on without asking.
- They chatted loads just between themselves about pre-school and friends and what they would tell Lily when they got home.
- Izzy stropped quite a lot more than Eve, and Eve laughed at her and teased her out of it.
- They were so content for most of the day just the two of them together.
- They need me far less than Lily does as they have each other.
For me being with these two for a day questions the whole nature/nurture debate. I just don’t really understand it. They’re identical twins, they have been brought up the same way, yet they are so incredibly different in all sorts of ways; but to others look completely alike.
I’m looking forward to spending more days with just the two of them and watching their differences shine out. I’m hoping these differences will help when they start school in September in separate classes (but that’s a whole other worry and blog post!).